Instructor: Andrea Harrison
Struggling with motivation? Perhaps your library is full of great classes that you haven't done or you have goals and aspirations that simply aren't being met. Develop your skills to overcome the inevitable excuses that interfere with training and achievement. You may want to focus on dog training - or something else - at the end of the day, it all interconnects ...
This class will help you methodically work through your blocks and get you inspired and working hard with your animal partner.
Gold students will have homework and their own threads and receive specific, personal attention. Silver students will be able to participate in class and ask questions and get more general feedback on assignments.
Next session starts: October 1, 2018Registration starts: September 22, 2018Registration ends: October 15, 2018
Registration will begin at 9:00 AM Pacific Time.
For answers to commonly asked questions see our FAQ page.
Enrollment limits: Gold: 10 students, Silver: 15 students, Bronze: unlimited.
Silver level for this class is offered as "Working Silver". In addition to asking GENERAL clarification questions about the class lecture materials, silver students will now have the opportunity to submit two short videos, one minute each, for critique and review. You may submit two questions. Each question MUST have a one minute video attached so the instructor can actually answer a question that they can see. The question must relate to a topic in the class and the video must be a demo of the question. Please see the discussion forum for a detailed explanation - feel free to sign up at bronze, read the explanation, and then come back here to upgrade to silver if that interests you, and if space is available.
If you are interested in a bronze level subscription, you can sign up at any time during the registration period.
What’s this course and what are you going to do with it?
- Setting Course Goals: working through a library course? Building a training plan? Getting your garage sorted out (oh wait- that’s me!)
- Terminology and word choice
- Planning: why it matters, how it works, what might work for you
- The components of motivation
What are your blocks to success? What’s the reward in what you are doing now?
- Identifying your blocks and challenges
- Time Management
- Tools to work through your blocks : finding them, testing them
- Self help experts and why they may fail you
What are your strengths? Gaps? What reinforcement is enough for you?
- Know Yourself
- Being good to yourself
- Why rewards can fail
Who’s in your support group? Are you using them well?
- Networking, how and why it works
- Accountability: What? Who? Why? HOW?
- Testing: a tool that isn’t in your comfort zone
How excellent do you want to be?
- Realistic Optimism
- The word “Try”
How are you going to keep moving forwards?
- Setting your sails to get you where you want to go
- Holding to Your Plan in the face of challenges and adversity
- Dealing with excuses
DEALING WITH DISAPPOINTMENT ...
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Oh what a can of worms we open when we try to delve into the topics of failure and disappointment. However there are a number of strategies to employ that may make dealing with disappointment productive as opposed to debilitating:
1) Acknowledge it! There’s no need to wallow in your feelings of heartbreak after a broken stay during group, but it’s absolutely OK to allow yourself to feel disappointment. Understand the source of your disappointment, and recognize that if you felt absolutely nothing, you’d have a good indication that the goal was, perhaps, not terribly important to you. 2) Get some perspective. What does your disappointment mean in the context of the bigger picture? What does it mean to your goals and your plan? Andrea’s Rule of Five kicks in here.
That is will it mean anything in 5 days? 5 months? 5 years? 3) Frame your disappointment in terms of your core principles. What is most important to you? How is this disappointment relevant to what means most to you? 4) Accept the fact that disappointment is part of being human. It’s not the first time you have been disappointed, and it won’t be the last. Use what disappoints you as a key to identifying what is most significant to you and whether your objectives are realistic relative to the resources you apply to meeting them.
5) Identify the good and make a note of it. When you are tempted to return to the negative of an event look at your notes and see that good also happened.
6) Consider your situation from an outsider’s perspective. What if someone you knew were experiencing the same issues you are? How would you identify what was going wrong? What would you tell them? Look at the five W's from the perspective of getting help deciphering the root of the disappointment. What happened? Where did it happen? (Is the where important to this instant?) Who was responsible for the challenge? When did it happen? How did it happen? Was it anticipated? Predicted? Perhaps it was just one of those things? And, why did it happen and what and how can you change things to overcome the feeling of disappointment?
When considering the reason for your disappointment and how you’re going to respond to it, be as analytical as you can be. Decide how you can use the information you’ve been provided to adapt your plan. Recognize that the very act of planning and goal-setting will help you make the most of disappointment. After all, in all probability, what you’re disappointed about represents but a single component of your plan, not the whole thing. Considering your disappointment within the framework of your whole set of goals and objectives will help you to see more clearly where adjustments may be needed and how relatively minor a setback is as part of the broader context. Life happens to us all.
If you find yourself disappointed about a glitch in your plans, take a deep breath and think objectively. Don’t make any big decisions until you have had a chance to really take stock of what’s happened and what it means in context. Too many people jump from one training or handling approach to another – totally oblivious to the confusion this can create for their teammate and themselves. Set some structure to handling decisions and approaches and give them time to work or not (I hope it’s obvious that if something is completely NOT working, or creating great stress for your team I want you to ditch it immediately – I’m talking about deciding you’ll train something one way then trying it three times then switching methods, then going back ... that kind of ping ponging sets you both up for disappointment. ).
Regardless of how disappointed you may feel at any given moment, own it. Don’t share it with your dog. He’s not the one who set the goals and decided how to reach them. Don’t ever let her know that things have gone off track. If you do, you risk turning disappointment over one element of your plan into a deeper pattern of disappointment from which it will be more difficult for you both to recover.
Another issue that can intensify feelings of disappointment is worry over what other people think. Here, too, it’s important to develop and maintain a healthy sense of perspective. If you’re worried about what other people think of you, take a minute to really consider how much you think about them. Do you remember everything about their performances that they might have found disappointing? On a practical level, what difference does it make what they think of you? Should what you think of them affect their behaviour? Should what they think of you affect yours? If it is affecting you ask them what they think directly. You may be pleasantly surprised to find out that they aren’t being nearly as judging as you thought. If you have a “coven” or “jerk” at your local events you likely will need to address them in one way or another (there are lectures in All In Your Head dealing with this) or you will likely invest a great deal of energy that could be better spent on yourself rather than worrying about them or reacting to them.
There are productive ways in which considering the actions and achievements of others can be helpful. Watch how your heroes cope with their own disappointments. Pay attention to what they do next, how they recover and how they adjust their approach.
Above all, when you’re feeling disappointed – whether it’s due to being out-competed or because you’re not feeling the love in a class or workshop setting – or something just isn’t going right (sigh) – give yourself permission to feel it, then give yourself a reminder that you’ve just been handed a goldmine of information you can use to adjust and progress. Implement the action strategies that will work for you in this instance ... then, to quote the film Frozen, "Let it Go".
If you’ve taken classes with me before you’ll know I like TED talks to help me make my points (and hey they are good for auditory learners too!) This is under 4 minutes ... and well worth a little consideration
Homework: Take an instance of disappointment that you have faced or fear facing, and reframe it using the tools most relevant for you of the tools above.
A sampling of what prior students have said about this course ...
Andrea's courses take you beyond dog training, they underpin your journey and relationship with your dog (or horse).
I am amazed with the progress I have made with Andrea's gentle guidance. The tools and resources she has provided have made a big difference in my life & the lecture content is so rich I will be referring back to it often.
No More Excuses is just the class I needed. I had been "wasting" classes that I was enrolling in and this class was a last ditch effort to see if could make it through the class. Not only did I make it through but I tackled some big issues along the way. I feel really good about enrolling in future Fenzi classes and my dog is learning Rally-O finally.
Great value, much cheaper than therapy and probably more effective! Realizing that I wasn't the only one struggling with these issues helped get me back on the right path. I've incorporated some of the suggestions in my daily routine and they are really helping!
Thank you, thank you! It is amazing what the right questions and concepts can do to open your eyes and make you aware. This course was an excellent investment in my future!
Thank you for all your support, realizing that I wasn't the only one struggling with these issues helped get me back on the right path. I've incorporated some of your suggestions in my daily routine and they are really helping!